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Been there done that (except church) worst part is how expensive on how much you pay, bills and rent included (depending on how financially stable you are)

Also having aspergers =/= living alone. I for one am happily married. Having ASD is just a different set of things to work through with your partner. There are very open minded and lovely neurotypicals out there who will accept and love ASD people for who they are, and many ASD people who’d gladly be the partner of another ASD individual.

My son is in the process to transition to living alone.

I have a huge problem with living with someone who has HFA and refuses to admit/accept , I am struggling, can anyone point me in the direction for partners ?

Wow now I know what to do I can be normal like-everyone else It’s like there saying it’s a life style choice

Why don't more aspie have aspie roommates?

Kee Hunt

Matthew Azevedo and Paula Azevedo

This is wonderful, but, how does an unemployable Aspie pay for this lifestyle? Living on the streets and eating out of dumpsters...

Did an autistic person write these tips? I'm hoping so...

Waiter: Enjoy your food. Aspie: Yeah you too, thanks! Waiter: Stare of a thousand cringes.

I don't find that aspies can't lie, that seems kinda silly

Yeah, it doesn't seem to bother sir mix a lot.

It makes me laugh and cry at the same time. Will I ever change? Why do we have to be so simple... That's so true we can't lie. We are literally incapable of making things up. But NTs assume we are rude and full of attitudes.

Those are my two aspies 😍

Yeah that’s true we kind have no control over that but I learnt over the years to adapt to the situation

I remember going into a restaurant once when I was tired and spacey after a days work. The waiter asked "How would you like your burger cooked.?" Without thinking, I answered "Yes please."

" It's not the dress Karen " " It's not the dress "

I promised my wife that if she ever asked me if clothes made her look fat, I would say yes. I then told her I did not want her to get in the habit of thinking her weight, up or down, influenced, in any way, how I felt.

Jennifer....Doesn’t this remind you of Athena’s humor?

Here are some cringe inducing, but very funny, things that tend to happen to you when you are "overly" literal. Such social blunders are almost diagnostic for those along the autistic spectrum. However, most people have had this happen to them, especially if they are highly distracted. The relationship between literal truth and social truth can be extremely tenuous. It also varies tremendously by situation and can be a substantial barrier between people trying to interact across different social strata, genders, professions, and cultures. In this and other ways, Aspies represent an example of people from a fundamentally different culture that you can talk to here on earth.

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Rachel Perry

It's almost like you were speaking directly to me with this. I needed to see this this morning. Thank you.

Anthony Whited

James McKay-Pearson x

My son 22 years age what shall I do

This is exactly what I did, my business is my special interest

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I just use headphones for crowds abd have a game console on me as a security blanket lol

Rowan James Mckenna Fitzgerald

As a fellow Aspie, I also enjoy being alone sometimes. But I also get lonely for the company of others. I try to be nice and it usually works. Of course, if I can make it to the end of the day without any incident, I'm relieved and happy.

Melita

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Mary-Jane Bonnaud

David Currah

She doesn't. That's what happens when us ASPI's stick together.

Therese Ekman

Robin Lee

Aaron Butler

i feel like its more regular people dont understand genius.

Amazing

arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh.

My wife and I have both got Aspergers and seem to be on the same wavelength- most of the time.

It seems like the thing to do, is to punish the aspi until they fear your anger. Then punish them for flinching when they think something they can't quite understand will set you off. Add some sarcasm and rhetorical questions that they will try to answer. With just a little work you can make loneliness so much more attractive.

Had a couple of failed relationships with NT men....then I met another person just like me and he and we just clicked - and it’s been on a whole new level and unlike any other “normal” relationship ever since - I don’t think I would ever bother dating an NT again as they just don’t seem to even want to try to “get you” 👍❤️

Sometimes I hate my brain, I have a brilliant long term memory but rubbish short term, I forget instructions (most of the time) almost instantly, I struggle every day at work, I get told I'm grumpy every day despite feeling perfectly happy my face just doesn't let me express it Sometimes, I can learn any language you throw at me and remember it forever, numbers may as well be non existent for me because I can't do math or remember them, it's like looking at the matrix... I have depression... probably branching from my aspergers.... I'm not stupid neither do I ever ask or want sympathy, i could go on all day about hypersensitivity, not getting every joke or emotion... but really my point is to the partners that don't have aspergers... but live with one that does, my gf isn't my strength, my strength comes from every day I've lived getting knocked down by those who will probably never understand me and getting up each time.... but she is my foundation.. she's the home I come back to, the one that doesn't judge, offers the benefit of doubt and understanding that without I probably wouldn't be here... You have that power too, you are the clarity in the confusion.. please don't give up on us because of most others have in the past.... the world will never change for the minority, but you can make love your foundation and priority

For the most part it’s all understandable to me the “issues” my partner is faced with. Our biggest “problem” seems to stem from the fact that my partner doesn’t seem to want to spend time with us or acknowledge if there are things she’s more interested or focused on. Is that common?

Bella Bellis

Are there any resources on how spouses can help their partners? How to communicate better? My daughter was diagnosed last year and learning more about her has made me realize my husband is probably on the spectrum too, and may be at the root of a lot of ongoing issues we have. I just want to do what I can to understand and help.

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Thanks.. I can so relate to most of that..

Sad, but true! 😢

excellent explaination

thank you for sharing

It is the loss of control that bothers me most.

Can definitely relate to this. 😔

This is so relevant to me. I have 2 suicide attempts and the 2nd I never even meant to happen... I can’t control this happening with me and sometimes it scares my family and I hate that.

I'm certain that I have Asperger's at this point in time, gone undiagnosed all these years... wish I could know where to find help where I am... 😞

Ann Marie

Brenda add this page to your fb...good info

I have Aspergers. Luckily I have only felt this way a few times in my life (last being about 4 years ago). It’s a complete freeze and in the worst few I had suicidal thoughts. I wish this feeling on nobody.

Accurate explanation.

Taylor I don’t resonate with all these extremely but the description is still relevant

Dean Brookes

Very accurate 😢

I have not had to do any of that for quite some time now. Once you remove the norms from your life, you are not forced to pretend to be one of them and all of a sudden, things improve dramatically.

I am this way. Took a while for my husband to understand that I wasn’t giving him the silent treatment it was just my way of dealing with the issue. I have to implode. I haven’t experienced it in a long time. My husband knows not to dig at me for answers but just let it happen and then tell me he’s there for me if I need anything. Once it breaks I’ll come out if hiding and be ok and can discuss. But it’s such an ordeal. Your mind is racing and so much is going on to process that is like it’s impossible for your brain to make sense of the culprit. So for me now it’s more of a let’s get to the bottom of what caused this and then psychoanalyze how to treat it. It’s pretty crazy stuff though.

Our oldest daughter does this and we understand that when she is ready to talk she will come and find us because she knows we are always ready for her and her sister. I know I have Asperger's as well as her I just haven't been diagnosed like her. But, at 43 I probably won't either

Like this video a lot. It's usually the very small triggers in my experience.....

if the cause for shutdowns isn't addressed, or sufficient time to recover during a shutdown --- they just become more frequent and it takes less "trigger/s" to have one. The saddest part is that "pushing thru" causes brain damage ... one is literally frying one's circuits (thus resulting in less elasticity and more frequent "shutdowns").

Many high functioning autistics who have not been diagnosed often have a "shutdown" event during their freshman year at college ... when all the "stimulation" --- roommates, classes, constant noise, light, etc. .... and no "escape" results in a "shutdown".

I can so relate. Only recently diagnosed after 28 years of seeing mental health professionals

strange knowing at age 63 that i've had this my whole life-it explains 'so much'.....i grew up in a time where you just 'did what you were told' and there was no diagnosis for anything unless it was 'severe' enough to be 'very' noticeable as in, 1 boy in our whole school who was said to be mentally retarded.

James McKay-Pearson x

It sounds real positive, but in the long haul it maybe problem most women would like to avoid. I know my wife thought she could fix me. Her attempts have been pretty painful for everyone involved.

Absolute rubbish , they lie and pretend to be someone they’re not , AVOID

Where are these women?

Larson Boss ♡

What do you think Bonnie Nelsen?

Well as an aspie it’s one thing to be honest with your partner but a lot of partners won’t have the patience which you need to be in a relationship with an aspie

Taylor Davison

How do I find a girlfriend to begin with? What do I do after leaving the house? Where do I go? There’s no single girls at my workplace or in my church.

Not my partner but my 35 yr old son. I reckon he could be driven to lying to get out of confrontation, a painful and unnatural situation. It's like still having a teenager in my home and my comfort zone is irrelevant, even if I too have lots of aspie traits. He can be wonderful, but if he digs his heels in, in his increasing isolation and lack of room hygiene, he would lie to keep me off his case.

Could someone tell me what those characteristics are on the video please? I am visually impaired, so, the video is only music to me. 🙂

I find this very true and I only recently was diagnosed with Aspergers as well... way more empathy and understanding than with anyone else for me.

well I can only speak for myself... *sees women for who they are – yeah ok *not the “macho type” - I'm not, but many women seem to prefer this type. *resembles their father – not sure what to make of this... *being kind, attentive and socially or emotionally immature – yes but I've come to better deal with my emotions *reliable, honest and steady – yeah, good *less “game playing” - I hate all “mind games” *intellectual depth can be appealing – hopefully *speaks his mind …due to his strong sense of social justice and clear moral beliefs. - yeah *physical characteristics and attentiveness can be important, especially if the woman has doubts regarding her own self-esteem and physical attractiveness. - I do not care to take advantage of anyone but I'd prefer for her to like herself. *attentiveness can be perceived as almost obsessive – hopefully not *words and actions can appear to have been learned from watching and rehearsing lines from a romantic movie. - I do not do this

Celebrating 17 years with my Aspie husband. He is the kindest man, doesn't have a mean bone in his body. I love the way he looks at things, he sees things that I would never see. His humor is so odd too, he is hilarious. Of course there are times when I get frustrated mostly because he doesn't respond the way that I want him to which is silly but I'm human. However, he has to deal with all my stuff too and I'm no picnic at times. I feel that once I really dug in and learned about ASD it really helped me not to have unrealistic expecttions of him and I'm very specific in my ask. I felt terrible that I was so unaware prior to him being identified on the spectrum. Knowledge is power! We are raising a 14 year old Aspie daughter together. The journey continues.

off course it is..try being an Aspie for a day..

No doubt a government pushed project to reform allowances like Disability Living Allowance ect. It’s BS basically. Although I do think differently, it produces a lot of problems internally and externally. Numpties!

Yes, it is.

It definitely is, and we are misunderstood human beings out of the entire human race. Normal is just a setting on a washing machine. I don't care anymore if society accepts us or not. These idiots refuse to accept anyone that doesn't fit into their boring,conformed model of "Normal". It irritates me when people say "Be a normal person". Normal doesn't exist moron. The amount of ignorance in people is staggering, and frankly there are times i wander why do i even try with people.

By definition, yes. A neurological disorder.

So a 'different sort of normal'.

Aspergers does not work for a marriage unless it is identified before hand. A person with aspergers is very rigid, cannot handle stress, does not have compassion, is always right, is very self centered, if a person goes into the relationship with their eyes wide open knowing what they are getting into is one thing, to be in a marriage for 15 yrs and realize your spouse is never going to have compassion, does not care what you think, wants to tell you when to get up, when to go to bed etc. does not make a good marriage. Narcissisitict personality traits.

Autism is a spectrum disorder with Asperger Syndrome being on the high end. My son is on the spectrum but also has dyslexia, auditory processing disorder, body in space and spatial awareness disorder, anxiety and depression. He is also very compassionate and empathetic and is a "Mark" for many others that would take advantage of his kindness. My son is great with animals, kids and seniors but he has no time organizational skills and requires help in the "Normal" world. So not sure where your definition came from but we cannot lump everybody on the spectrum the same as it makes it difficult because generalizations makes everybody believe that they are all the same and quite frankly they are all different. It is very limiting to try putting everybody in the same box. I also do not like this video as again it is putting a box around the label which is simply dangerous. Dyslexia is a spectrum learning disorder you cannot put each person in the same box when it comes down to teaching them how to read and comprehend what they are reading. Bi Polar is a spectrum disorder.....

I have been with someone with elements of high functional autism for 15 years. Rough road but I made the commitment. I do wish there was a support group locally. My biggest issue to deal with is the lack of empathy and inability to show affection, etc.

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I have aspergers and I HATE it. Nobody understands and they don't try to understand. They just plain don't like me because of it.

Marriage can be very difficult.

I like the way I am and the way I think. It is just really frustrating when so many people can't be bothered to try and understand me and write me off as some type of weirdo.

If it was ONLY a preference for more object-oriented tasks or just a preference to be alone or even small comfortable groups/settings, then this mind-set is referred to as an introvert. I get what the post was trying to say in an abstract way but it dismisses many thing that bring it into a disorder. Generally preferring select groups or solitary work or settings is not a problem The way Autism can make how the world is viewed is wonderful. The anxiety, stress and depression that come with input overload, low tolerances for people, places and things. Hell. The need for a rigid environment, most of the time but not always, creates strife in families or intimacy. Choking, I want to...but I can't, hell. The inability of others to understand why sometimes we can jump out of the rigid routine to blow off steam, confuses others more. Stresses me when I can not explain it. Hell. Being gone with not talking to friends for months, even years, and then being shocked that it bothered the person you did not talk to. Why did it bother them? They could of called me. I had no time, the day to day maxed out what I could do. I am here now. Why are you upset with me? Hell. As individuals we can understand each other. Some of the differences are truly bonuses. But the reality is a world around us, that functions without most of our negative traits and I still struggle with why they can, but I can't. It is a disorder because the negative traits are not normal. Flipping out ( or having a severe panic attack) because a routine is disrupted or the butter was put in the wrong place...not normal. Hell on everyone in the home. I wish every day this was not me. I notice more, and more of the negative as I get older. I notice fewer around me wanting to be there or deal with me. Hell. A disorder. A disability. Some really good qualities overshadowed by stress, strife and other problems aggravated and made worse as time goes on. Even help, counseling, just teaches me to "fake it" . More stress. No. This video... It is stirring a pot with an intellectually-stifled, lump-all-in, statement that verges on insulting.

I feel it is a disorder...been living with it for 69 years. Always wished I had been aborted...

Everyone is different, different degrees of function, some are very intelligent and highly functional. More awareness and education is needed. To be in a relationship for years and wondering why it is not working, thinking you are the one that is not right because you are berated 24/7 by a rigid spouse. In this case you need to go in with your eyes wide open and have a support system. In this case the counselor did not pick up on the behavior and the wife was blamed. There is a lot of old school from entrenched church dogma if the wife obeys and does everything her husband says then the husband will be nice. Time to figure things out and mental health folks need to get a clue.

He'll know!!!

You bet it is..try dealing with bully's and see what happens?

Disorder? They should take a look at my house then tell me it's not a disorder.

We are who we are a lot of people don’t get people like us and I like it that way

I think it's only a disorder if it causing the individual signifant difficulty interfering with safety or achieving one's personal goals. It is not a disorder if it causes others difficulty.

The way I see it, if it's interfering with things you want, then it's a disorder. If it's interfering with friendships that you want, or keeping a relationship going, or getting a job and holding it, then yes, it's a disorder. When it interferes with you going places you want to go to or even being able to take your kids places they want to go to (because they want to go to loud-crowded-busy place and you go into a panic even imagining going there...) then it's a disorder. It's nice to say "we're all different and that's fine" because it is to a point. To me, that point is when it interferes with your ability to do what you would like to do.

definitely a disorder. But nice try.

It shurely is !

Yes. It is a disorder of the brain. In other words an Asperger's brain orders things differently than a neotypical brain.

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Yes but I need to find someone first

James McKay-Pearson x

DON'T DO IT!!!!

Here's one. Dont. It is not worth the headache honestly. Friendships are hard enough and can generally last longer.

Aspies make phenomenal partners, just saying. But you simply cannot treat a relationship with them the same way you would a neurotypical. Build personal boundaries, dont treat them like a charity case, ensure they have agency and competency and right to privacy. You will often have to explain things that might seem very obvious. Aspies are honest, caring, however their lack of empathy should be viewed for both its challenges and benefits - its not something that can change. Don't ever make an Aspie feel wrong for who they are. They are prone to deception and manipulation, so truthfulness and straightforwardness go a long way, and requires a great deal if responsibility to maintain. If you are equipped to manage all that comes with dating an Aspie, the outcome, to me, is so worth it. Aspies deserve love and respect and affection, just like anyone else. They are uniquely gifted, and in my experience, make stellar partners if you understand behaviour.

I am Aspie and my husband too!! We have been married for 21 years, he is an excellent husband, caring, honest, loving and empathetic, we know how to respect the time and space of each of us, I love him and I think he is my soulmate.

I'm aspie, and have been married 23 years.

Anthony Whited Marian Trainor

there are always someone just around the corner for everyone

Best advice- just be yourself.

Help! 😣 I think I've been dating someone for 6 years and he never disclosed that he may have been a high-functioning autistic or having Asperger's Syndrome! It's been many years I've been driving myself bonkers trying to figure out if it was something wrong with me or why is it that he never wants to be intimate with me....it's been over 4 years since.

Ricky Mendelsen !

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Oliver Newton

James McKay-Pearson you are not alone xx

I have to turn the volume down anytime I play one of these videos but watch Netflix at full volume...perhaps you could adjust the audio track for people with sensitivity to sound? Just a thought, no big deal but it sort of startles me when I click on the video.

I live alone.. I keep my house clean, it has to be a certain way. I get anxiety sometimes when people just turn up. I don’t get many visitors I don’t know why. I can sit in my House and not talk to anyone for weeks upon end. I have a dog and I try and stick to a healthy diet. I like to paint and practice little hobbies but since my health is declining I’m finding it harder to look after myself. I’m in a lot of pain. Which makes you feel like shutting the world out even more and giving up

Please talk to your GP to get more help with pain and explain that it is harder to look after yourself. Maybe choose one person to ask for a bit of support and advice. Avoid getting too low a mood. Best wishes x

Wtf

Can yall please post some advice for women with Aspergers who are single mothers of 2 aspie kids..,,cause that's me ..,and I have no family or friends really....I'm def looking out for that video 🙂 lol

Many of us actually enjoy being alone. "Don't become a hermit?" How about you not force your condescending NT judgements onto us on how we should live our lives? This isn't advice, this is further pressure to adjust our lifestyle.

I'm 59 by now I like who I am and what I do all day [play piano].. I need a girlfriend on the weekends... but I bet I'm not far off, the gals don't want a full time either at our age..

Hey, my name is Andrew, and I am an author and artist with Asperger Syndrome. I struggled with the diagnosis for as long as I can remember, especially in the areas of self-acceptance and maintaining relationships with others. I am grateful for the videos I have seen here, because they articulate exactly what I have experienced since I became aware of my differences. Thank you for this support group. I hope that I can make some friends here and help others along the way.

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I’d rather be a leader than a follower and my empathy level is high.

Yes, I can see that.

They can be tho. Think its just as much as in the general public.

And of course all Aspergians are female and all Narcissists are male..

Zane McCombe

Diane Trainor Marian Trainor

No good! That is worded in a sexist manner!

So men are narcs and women are aspies??

came a little close for comfort there. lol

So the last part of the video is like comparing Tesla to Edison .

Why imply that money is a bad thing?

Kymberley, this is what we were talking about the other day. I see why Jalisa, you and I are targeted the most by the narcissist of the family.

most would never know my hubby has High functioning Aspergers, his 53 and only last year has it come up... Still, need to be officially diagnosed but if only we knew. Now it makes sense.

Chelle Sode

Aspergers is a neurological type and narcissism is a personality type therefore it is complete folly to compare them in this way. One can quite easily have either or both. I know several aspies who are full-of-themselves and love being the centre of attention and are ruthless yet are completely disorganised and blunder their way through when they get control - NPD is a personality trait people develop and has little to do with their neurological makeup.

I can’t even believe this is a thing...people with asd FEEL and get others have feelings, people with NPD clinically are unable to get others have feelings. Autistic people love, people with NPD are unable to love anyone.

Kelly Oberholtzer

Not true...it also depends on environment and family and friends...people to keep us grounded to the real world

Alexandria Jordan Wilde interesting. I'm not a narcissist then. I never wanted to be anyone's leader.

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Robbie Christie

Elizabeth Beatty Sarah Black Sarah Mautino Charntelle Kay Carlie Cox

My problem is if I can’t see every aspect of the journey from idea to fruition then I’m incapacitated. Gift it maybe but every coin has two sides.

Snaps

Sometimes they don't appreciate these talents, but I'm glad I have hem.

JL Solomon

Adam Bassett ❤️